有緣的大敏

十多年的麻將情緣

一年半的卡拉ok 相伴

影音班第四梯次切磋

及開始萌芽的募款 濃情蜜意大使

和大敏交錯的緣份處處皆在。

從持續了十多年的麻將搭子 到最近一年多的卡拉ok 歌友。影音班同學。 及近期的濃情蜜意大使。

都是一起玩耍。一起成長及互相切磋。互相扶持的朋友

疫情之前的十多年來我們經常一道打麻將。下午二點至晚間十一時。 從一桌到三桌麻將不等。每當輪到大敏及潮君家做東時。就知道又有清淡可口的菜肴可以享用。大敏不但打麻將飛快 不拖泥帶水。 而且做菜也手腳悧落 不用多久就有一桌好菜上桌。她頭腦靈活。反應超快。不論做什麼事都快手快腳又認真以待

有幾次開了三桌。正巧大敏的母親及婆婆也都在場。大敏和潮君都不約而同的讓出位置給母親。兩位老太太都打麻將打得很高興。而從過程中也可看出大敏及潮君都是侍母至孝的一對好夫妻。

一年多的疫情期間 虧得有大敏及瓊美同學的創意。我們湊了四人繼續網路上打麻將 瓊美同學 download 了一個麻將 APP 而大敏則建議用zoom meeting 一面打麻將一面聊天。 每周末我們都繼續做麻將友。 如果是周日 大敏都會不斷提醒我 八點到了。趕快報名卡拉ok了 多謝他的細心。許多次我才得以及時報上名

而疫情後一起參加周五晚的卡拉ok 表演。我們聯繫更為緊密。從選歌。練歌到virtual background 及音樂的各式各樣的adjustment 無一不細細討論 我也大大受惠于她對電腦及音樂的精通。 幾個月前。我們幾個人接下 tech support team 的工作 為大家服務。其實靠的都是大敏精細的科技知識及企而不捨的求知精神。 到了九月中 旬 大敏在中央公園兒子的婚禮中趺傷了腳。腳不能著地 必需坐輪椅六個星期。幸虧有潮君照料。買菜煮飯。 但大敏還是堅持留在tech support team 為同學服務。 她的服務精神及堅持令人感佩

此外 大敏也堅持一星期練習一首新歌的原則。 不輕易放棄。 她的好學不倦及求好之心。真叫人刮目相看。

而在影音班的課程中。大敏也都是全力以赴。 她敬業認真的特質 很少人能及。還記得她第一個練習作品 講逑的就是她的母親。那是今年二月。當時正值她甫退休 很高興的飛到台灣陪伴年邁的母親。在台數月間她也堅持運用有限的硬體周五上線卡拉ok. 周日打麻將。周六上影音課 除了另外有事 從未間斷過。在她的影片處女作中 她對母親的濡慕之情彰顥無遺。

這次她在腿傷痊癒之後。立即安排 11/16-1/6/22 和夫婿飛加州探望心愛的女兒一家。也迫不急待的預計在1/13/22 赴台侍奉母親至四月中旬 機票及防疫旅舘皆已安排妥當。她非常興奮 期待和女兒一家相聚 過節 也很怏樂的安排了和母親及弟弟全家的一道出遊。當然也沒有忘記周五的卡拉ok 及繼續遠程的周日麻將。卻沒有料到在11/16 去機場前刻。心肌梗塞 以至人天永隔 徒留遺憾

這些年來大敏溫婉的個性。侍母至孝 愛護家庭 子女 不遺餘力 待友至誠也都是有目共賭的 可惜天不假年。徒留遺憾

前兩天得知大敏發病的消息。先是不敢置信 而後是難以接受

但再轉念間 在一瞬間失去如此一位賢妻 良母。益友。固然是大家的損失。但是她走得瀟灑。沒有經歷過老。病 的折磨也未嘗不是值得安慰的。只願此刻大敏已往生淨土。

安息 大敏

薏朱 敬呈

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My dear Dah-Miin,

My ten year-long mahjong lover,

My one and a half year-long karaoke partner,

My audiovisual classmate,

My budding fundraising ambassador,

The friendship between Dah-Miin and I goes all the way back. We played mahjong together for more than ten years. She has been my karaoke partner for the past one and a half year. She is my audiovisual classmate, and also my fundraising ambassador. We hang out together, grow, learn, and support each other throughout all these years.

Before Covid, we often played mahjong together. Each mahjong date started from 2pm and lasted all the way till midnight. Whenever it was time for Dah-Miin and Chaur-Jian to host the mahjong date, we knew that there would be a delectable feast waiting for us at their place. Dah-Miin not only plays mahjong fast but she's not muddle-headed. Moreover, she's a great cook, and it doesn't take her long for a table of delicious dishes to be served. She is intelligent and also gets things done fast. Whatever she does, she does it quickly and does it well.

Once there were 3 tables of mahjong playing at her place. Dah-Miin's mother and mother in law were there as well. Both her and Chaur-Jian immediately gave their seats to their mothers. Both mothers then happily played mahjong. I could tell that the couple is filial and good at heart from the way they treat their mothers. Thanks to Dah-Miin and Qiong-Mei's idea, we managed to continue to play online mahjong together during the more than a year long pandemic. Qiong-Mei discovered a mahjong App, and Dah-Miin suggested having a zoom meeting while playing online mahjong. That way we could play and chat at the same time. We continued to be mahjong friends every weekend. Thanks to Dah-Miin's friendly reminder every Sunday at 8pm, I always managed to register for karaoke class on time.

After the pandemic, both of us joined the Friday night karaoke class. We were even closer than before. We discussed in detail from choosing and practicing the song, to adjusting the virtual background and music. I benefit greatly from Dah-Miin's adept knowledge in computer and music. A few months ago, we took over the work of the tech support team to serve the class. We could do so because of Dah-Miin's technological skills and her perseverance in seeking knowledge and improvements. Dah-Miin broke her foot during her son's wedding at Central Park in July. She couldn't walk and had to be in a wheelchair for 6 long weeks. Fortunately Chaur-Jian was there to take care of her. Even under this difficult condition, Dah-Miin insisted and continued to stay in the tech support team to serve her classmates. Her spirit of service and persistence is admirable. Additionally, she continued to practice one new song every week, never giving up. Her studious, perseverance and the desire for improvements are really impressive.

Dah-Miin also put in all her efforts at the audiovisual class. Few people can match her dedication and conscientiousness. I still remember that her first practice work piece was about her mother. This February when she had just retired, she happily flew to Taiwan to accompany her elderly mother. During the many months in Taiwan, even with limited hardware, Dah-Miin still insisted on attending the Friday night karaoke classes, the Saturday audiovisual classes, and the Sunday mahjong dates. Unless she was busy that day, Dah-Miin didn't miss a single class or mahjong date. In her film debut, her admiration for her mother is evident and undeniable.

When Dah-Miin recovered from her broken foot, she immediately planned on visiting her daughter and her family from 11/16 to 1/6. She also planned on flying to Taiwan on 1/13/22 to keep her mother company till April next year. She had bought tickets and had booked a quarantine hotel room. She was thrilled and looking forward to spending time and holidays with her daughter and her family. She was also happy planning holiday trips with her mother and brothers in Taiwan. Of course, she would have remembered her Friday night karaoke classes and her online Mahjong dates on Sundays.

Unfortunately, while on her way to the airport on November 16th, she had a major heart attack and passed away a few days later. All there was left were the memories of my dear friend, Dah-Miin.

Dah-Miin had a gentle personality. She was a filial daughter, a loving wife, a caring mother, and a sincere friend to many people. I learned the news of Dah-Miin's passing two days ago. At first I couldn't believe it, and then it's hard to accept. Dah-Miin's passing is a great loss for all of us. But I feel comforted in knowing that she did not suffer for long. I prayed that Dah-Miin is in Heaven now. Rest in Peace, Dah-Miin.

Respectfully,

Sofia Ko